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Hypnobirthing Frequently Asked Questions
I cannot recommend my doula, Sam, highly enough. I laboured for four days, and she supported me mentally and physically, day and night, with unwavering dedication. She not only cared for me but also made sure my partner was able to take breaks and stay fuelled, reminding us both how essential he would be in the hours and days after birth.
Throughout my entire labour, as my decisions changed and evolved, Sam supported me without judgement. My goal was to have a VBAC after a c-section two years ago, and with Sam’s calm guidance, reassurance, and advocacy, I achieved it. I truly believe that given how my labour unfolded, without Sam by my side I may have ended up in surgery again.
Having a toddler at home, avoiding another surgery was incredibly important to me and Sam understood that completely. She was calm, committed, rational, and so deeply dedicated to my wellbeing. I felt safe, informed, and truly supported every step of the way.
Sam is an exceptional doula, and I am endlessly grateful for the role she played in bringing my baby into the world.
We had such a positive birth experience & I fully credit that to Sam. We got in contact with her as the birth of our first daughter hadn’t gone how we wanted.
The work we did with Sam antenatally & having her present at the birth meant it was so different this time.
Sam helped both practically; assisting me into the optimum positions to give birth & coaching me through pushing but also emotionally by being a calming presence & the cheerleader that she knew I needed.
Our work with Sam also allowed us to feel really confident in the birth choices we were making.
My husband & I can’t rave about Sam enough & would 100% recommend her to others.
We were sure that having a doula would help to make our birth experience what we wanted it to be, but I don't think we imagined how much of an impact Sam would have. We couldn't speak highly enough of her.
Speaking to our midwifes afterwards, they said that Sam had restored their faith in Doulas!
We hired Sam as our doula and hypnobirthing coach, and we truly cannot recommend her highly enough. From the very beginning, she brought such warmth, kindness, and reassurance to our journey into parenthood, and we are so grateful we had her by our side.
Initially, my partner was a little sceptical about both hypnobirthing and having a doula, but Sam took the time to really listen to us, understand what we both wanted, and tailor her support to suit us as individuals and as a team. By the end of our experience, we both felt that Sam’s guidance and presence throughout pregnancy and birth were absolutely invaluable.
Every hypnobirthing session was informative, empowering, and practical. Sam helped us build confidence and learn techniques that became instrumental during what turned out to be a long labour. She was patient, compassionate, and supportive, and it genuinely felt like she became part of our team. Sam had empathy throughout, particularly as I was really scared of labour at first, and following a miscarriage earlier in the year. But she helped us overcome those worries, with guidance and evidence based reasoning which helped us enter the labour in a prepared and calm mindset.
As our due date approached, she consistently went above and beyond — spending extra time answering questions, calming worries, and helping us feel prepared and supported.
When I went into labour on Sunday evening, we were planning for a home birth. Sam came over in the early hours when things began to intensify and immediately brought a sense of calm to the environment. She supported us beautifully, worked seamlessly with the midwife team (who all spoke so highly of her afterwards), and allowed my husband to remain fully present by my side throughout. After many hours, as labour stalled, Sam stayed with us, offering unwavering encouragement and care far beyond what we ever expected.
Eventually, after further advice from the midwives, we transferred to the birth centre. Labour continued slowly throughout Monday until things progressed again late that night. As soon as we called Sam again at 11pm, she came straight to the birth centre and stayed with us until a couple of hours after the birth of our baby girl on Tuesday afternoon when some minor medical activities were needed. Sam was with us, either in person or available via WhatsApp for the duration of the labour which was over 50 hours!
Her support throughout the entire experience was incredible. From her calm guidance and reassurance, to advocating for us and helping us navigate decisions and communicate with the midwives, Sam made such a positive difference to our birth experience. During the birth centre advanced labour, she helped with changing my positions, breathing techniques, taking the lead so my husband could get some rest.
Thanks in no small part to her support and the hypnobirthing techniques she taught us, I was able to achieve the water birth I had hoped for and feel positive and empowered despite the long labour journey.
We will always be incredibly grateful for Sam’s care, dedication, and kindness. The support she gave us before, during, and after birth — including the post-birth debriefs — was thoughtful, informative, and reassuring. She helped us feel seen, heard, and supported every step of the way.
A final testament to Sam, is that we are sure that after such a long early labour, if we did not have Sam and her support then we would have likely headed towards an unplanned C-Section. But her guidance enabled us to have the waterbirth that I had really wanted and Sam played a key role in supporting us to navigate the NHS and have a positive birth experience.
We wholeheartedly recommend Sam and her doula and hypnobirthing services to any expecting parents. She is truly exceptional at what she does. Thank you, Sam.
Sam was my post-natal doula, and having her around was the first time in years that I have felt looked after. She made sure I rested, ate healthy food, had someone to discuss the birth, etc. with, and would look after my baby to give me a bit of a break.
What I also appreciated was the WhatsApp support. I messaged her about various things and she always responded quickly. She also had some great recommendations when I was looking for some breastfeeding help - people it would have taken me ages to find, or not found at all.
If you are looking for support after having a baby, I can’t recommend Sam highly enough.
We’re so grateful to have had Sam as our doula. She was calm, knowledgeable, and incredibly supportive throughout pregnancy and birth.
Her presence during the birth felt vital, and her follow up care was exactly what I needed. We couldn’t recommend her more highly.
Sam was very gentle and caring. She arrived less than a week after our daughter was born and was meant to stay for 6 weeks but we asked if she would stay a little further as she made our lives so much better.
She took away so much mental space which gave me the time to really enjoy this (my last of three) postpartum and really anchor down with my baby.
Sam was always ready to listen and make suggestions. After having 2 birth without the afterwards support, this was a completely different experience.
I would recommend Sam to anyone who’s in need of a mother/sister/long lost family friend feeling!!
We were lucky enough to have Sam as our doula for our first pregnancy and birth. Before, during and after the birth Sam gave fantastic support (practical and emotional) and ultimately made us both a lot more confident and less nervous going into the birth.
Sam gave great antenatal sessions in which she answered all our questions about what to expect, and with that she helped us come up with a birth preference plan we felt really positively and prepared for.
During the birth, Sam continued to provide us with great, informative support as the birth played out and different decisions had to be made. As such, we feel really positively about the whole birth experience.
Following the birth, Sam was wonderful, spending time to meal prep, help with a bit of housework, and provide moral support to myself. I can't thank her enough.
We wouldn't hesitate to have Sam be included as a birth partner for future births.
We booked Sam for a 1:1 hypnobirthing course for our second baby.
She is a wonderful teacher and really helped me and my partner get the most out of hypnobirthing.
Having a very long labour, the knowledge she passed down to us was invaluable! Definitely recommend booking in with her!
Absolute lifesaver ✨
Incredibly supportive, helpful and knowledgeable. Sam has a kind and warm presence and we were very comfortable having her in our home taking care of me and our newborn 🤍
Sam is amazing! She was more than just an extra pair hands. Sam really became a part of the family while she was with us and helped us from not losing our minds!
We thoroughly enjoyed Sam’s hypnobirthing course!
Sam put us both at ease and we finished the course with knowledge and techniques to help us through our birthing journey. We came away feeling genuinely informed, calm, and prepared rather than overwhelmed.
We cannot recommend Sam’s course highly enough to any expectant parent.
We were lucky enough to have Sam as our doula for our first pregnancy and birth. Before, during and after the birth Sam gave fantastic support (practical and emotional) and ultimately made us both a lot more confident and less nervous going into the birth.
Sam gave great antenatal sessions in which she answered all our questions about what to expect, and with that she helped us come up with a birth preference plan we felt really positively and prepared for.
During the birth, Sam continued to provide us with great, informative support as the birth played out and different decisions had to be made. As such, we feel really positively about the whole birth experience.
Following the birth, Sam was wonderful, spending time to meal prep, help with a bit of housework, and provide moral support to myself. I can't thank her enough.
We wouldn't hesitate to have Sam be included as a birth partner for future births.
We hired Sam as our doula and hypnobirthing coach, and we truly cannot recommend her highly enough. From the very beginning, she brought such warmth, kindness, and reassurance to our journey into parenthood, and we are so grateful we had her by our side.
Initially, my partner was a little sceptical about both hypnobirthing and having a doula, but Sam took the time to really listen to us, understand what we both wanted, and tailor her support to suit us as individuals and as a team. By the end of our experience, we both felt that Sam’s guidance and presence throughout pregnancy and birth were absolutely invaluable.
Every hypnobirthing session was informative, empowering, and practical. Sam helped us build confidence and learn techniques that became instrumental during what turned out to be a long labour. She was patient, compassionate, and supportive, and it genuinely felt like she became part of our team. Sam had empathy throughout, particularly as I was really scared of labour at first, and following a miscarriage earlier in the year. But she helped us overcome those worries, with guidance and evidence based reasoning which helped us enter the labour in a prepared and calm mindset.
As our due date approached, she consistently went above and beyond — spending extra time answering questions, calming worries, and helping us feel prepared and supported.
When I went into labour on Sunday evening, we were planning for a home birth. Sam came over in the early hours when things began to intensify and immediately brought a sense of calm to the environment. She supported us beautifully, worked seamlessly with the midwife team (who all spoke so highly of her afterwards), and allowed my husband to remain fully present by my side throughout. After many hours, as labour stalled, Sam stayed with us, offering unwavering encouragement and care far beyond what we ever expected.
Eventually, after further advice from the midwives, we transferred to the birth centre. Labour continued slowly throughout Monday until things progressed again late that night. As soon as we called Sam again at 11pm, she came straight to the birth centre and stayed with us until a couple of hours after the birth of our baby girl on Tuesday afternoon when some minor medical activities were needed. Sam was with us, either in person or available via WhatsApp for the duration of the labour which was over 50 hours!
Her support throughout the entire experience was incredible. From her calm guidance and reassurance, to advocating for us and helping us navigate decisions and communicate with the midwives, Sam made such a positive difference to our birth experience. During the birth centre advanced labour, she helped with changing my positions, breathing techniques, taking the lead so my husband could get some rest.
Thanks in no small part to her support and the hypnobirthing techniques she taught us, I was able to achieve the water birth I had hoped for and feel positive and empowered despite the long labour journey.
We will always be incredibly grateful for Sam’s care, dedication, and kindness. The support she gave us before, during, and after birth — including the post-birth debriefs — was thoughtful, informative, and reassuring. She helped us feel seen, heard, and supported every step of the way.
A final testament to Sam, is that we are sure that after such a long early labour, if we did not have Sam and her support then we would have likely headed towards an unplanned C-Section. But her guidance enabled us to have the waterbirth that I had really wanted and Sam played a key role in supporting us to navigate the NHS and have a positive birth experience.
We wholeheartedly recommend Sam and her doula and hypnobirthing services to any expecting parents. She is truly exceptional at what she does. Thank you, Sam.
We were sure that having a doula would help to make our birth experience what we wanted it to be, but I don't think we imagined how much of an impact Sam would have. We couldn't speak highly enough of her.
Speaking to our midwifes afterwards, they said that Sam had restored their faith in Doulas!
We booked Sam for a 1:1 hypnobirthing course for our second baby.
She is a wonderful teacher and really helped me and my partner get the most out of hypnobirthing.
Having a very long labour, the knowledge she passed down to us was invaluable! Definitely recommend booking in with her!
We had such a positive birth experience & I fully credit that to Sam. We got in contact with her as the birth of our first daughter hadn’t gone how we wanted.
The work we did with Sam antenatally & having her present at the birth meant it was so different this time.
Sam helped both practically; assisting me into the optimum positions to give birth & coaching me through pushing but also emotionally by being a calming presence & the cheerleader that she knew I needed.
Our work with Sam also allowed us to feel really confident in the birth choices we were making.
My husband & I can’t rave about Sam enough & would 100% recommend her to others.
We thoroughly enjoyed Sam’s hypnobirthing course!
Sam put us both at ease and we finished the course with knowledge and techniques to help us through our birthing journey. We came away feeling genuinely informed, calm, and prepared rather than overwhelmed.
We cannot recommend Sam’s course highly enough to any expectant parent.
We’re so grateful to have had Sam as our doula. She was calm, knowledgeable, and incredibly supportive throughout pregnancy and birth.
Her presence during the birth felt vital, and her follow up care was exactly what I needed. We couldn’t recommend her more highly.
I cannot recommend my doula, Sam, highly enough. I laboured for four days, and she supported me mentally and physically, day and night, with unwavering dedication. She not only cared for me but also made sure my partner was able to take breaks and stay fuelled, reminding us both how essential he would be in the hours and days after birth.
Throughout my entire labour, as my decisions changed and evolved, Sam supported me without judgement. My goal was to have a VBAC after a c-section two years ago, and with Sam’s calm guidance, reassurance, and advocacy, I achieved it. I truly believe that given how my labour unfolded, without Sam by my side I may have ended up in surgery again.
Having a toddler at home, avoiding another surgery was incredibly important to me and Sam understood that completely. She was calm, committed, rational, and so deeply dedicated to my wellbeing. I felt safe, informed, and truly supported every step of the way.
Sam is an exceptional doula, and I am endlessly grateful for the role she played in bringing my baby into the world.
Absolute lifesaver ✨
Incredibly supportive, helpful and knowledgeable. Sam has a kind and warm presence and we were very comfortable having her in our home taking care of me and our newborn 🤍
Sam was my post-natal doula, and having her around was the first time in years that I have felt looked after. She made sure I rested, ate healthy food, had someone to discuss the birth, etc. with, and would look after my baby to give me a bit of a break.
What I also appreciated was the WhatsApp support. I messaged her about various things and she always responded quickly. She also had some great recommendations when I was looking for some breastfeeding help - people it would have taken me ages to find, or not found at all.
If you are looking for support after having a baby, I can’t recommend Sam highly enough.
Sam was very gentle and caring. She arrived less than a week after our daughter was born and was meant to stay for 6 weeks but we asked if she would stay a little further as she made our lives so much better.
She took away so much mental space which gave me the time to really enjoy this (my last of three) postpartum and really anchor down with my baby.
Sam was always ready to listen and make suggestions. After having 2 birth without the afterwards support, this was a completely different experience.
I would recommend Sam to anyone who’s in need of a mother/sister/long lost family friend feeling!!
We hired Sam as our doula and hypnobirthing coach, and we truly cannot recommend her highly enough. From the very beginning, she brought such warmth, kindness, and reassurance to our journey into parenthood, and we are so grateful we had her by our side.
Initially, my partner was a little sceptical about both hypnobirthing and having a doula, but Sam took the time to really listen to us, understand what we both wanted, and tailor her support to suit us as individuals and as a team. By the end of our experience, we both felt that Sam’s guidance and presence throughout pregnancy and birth were absolutely invaluable.
Every hypnobirthing session was informative, empowering, and practical. Sam helped us build confidence and learn techniques that became instrumental during what turned out to be a long labour. She was patient, compassionate, and supportive, and it genuinely felt like she became part of our team. Sam had empathy throughout, particularly as I was really scared of labour at first, and following a miscarriage earlier in the year. But she helped us overcome those worries, with guidance and evidence based reasoning which helped us enter the labour in a prepared and calm mindset.
As our due date approached, she consistently went above and beyond — spending extra time answering questions, calming worries, and helping us feel prepared and supported.
When I went into labour on Sunday evening, we were planning for a home birth. Sam came over in the early hours when things began to intensify and immediately brought a sense of calm to the environment. She supported us beautifully, worked seamlessly with the midwife team (who all spoke so highly of her afterwards), and allowed my husband to remain fully present by my side throughout. After many hours, as labour stalled, Sam stayed with us, offering unwavering encouragement and care far beyond what we ever expected.
Eventually, after further advice from the midwives, we transferred to the birth centre. Labour continued slowly throughout Monday until things progressed again late that night. As soon as we called Sam again at 11pm, she came straight to the birth centre and stayed with us until a couple of hours after the birth of our baby girl on Tuesday afternoon when some minor medical activities were needed. Sam was with us, either in person or available via WhatsApp for the duration of the labour which was over 50 hours!
Her support throughout the entire experience was incredible. From her calm guidance and reassurance, to advocating for us and helping us navigate decisions and communicate with the midwives, Sam made such a positive difference to our birth experience. During the birth centre advanced labour, she helped with changing my positions, breathing techniques, taking the lead so my husband could get some rest.
Thanks in no small part to her support and the hypnobirthing techniques she taught us, I was able to achieve the water birth I had hoped for and feel positive and empowered despite the long labour journey.
We will always be incredibly grateful for Sam’s care, dedication, and kindness. The support she gave us before, during, and after birth — including the post-birth debriefs — was thoughtful, informative, and reassuring. She helped us feel seen, heard, and supported every step of the way.
A final testament to Sam, is that we are sure that after such a long early labour, if we did not have Sam and her support then we would have likely headed towards an unplanned C-Section. But her guidance enabled us to have the waterbirth that I had really wanted and Sam played a key role in supporting us to navigate the NHS and have a positive birth experience.
We wholeheartedly recommend Sam and her doula and hypnobirthing services to any expecting parents. She is truly exceptional at what she does. Thank you, Sam.
We booked Sam for a 1:1 hypnobirthing course for our second baby.
She is a wonderful teacher and really helped me and my partner get the most out of hypnobirthing.
Having a very long labour, the knowledge she passed down to us was invaluable! Definitely recommend booking in with her!
We thoroughly enjoyed Sam’s hypnobirthing course!
Sam put us both at ease and we finished the course with knowledge and techniques to help us through our birthing journey. We came away feeling genuinely informed, calm, and prepared rather than overwhelmed.
We cannot recommend Sam’s course highly enough to any expectant parent.
We had such a positive birth experience & I fully credit that to Sam. We got in contact with her as the birth of our first daughter hadn’t gone how we wanted.
The work we did with Sam antenatally & having her present at the birth meant it was so different this time.
Sam helped both practically; assisting me into the optimum positions to give birth & coaching me through pushing but also emotionally by being a calming presence & the cheerleader that she knew I needed.
Our work with Sam also allowed us to feel really confident in the birth choices we were making.
My husband & I can’t rave about Sam enough & would 100% recommend her to others.
Hypnobirthing is a scientifically proven way of aiding calm and relaxation during labour. It looks to reframe how you feel about birth and gives you the tools to control and even eradicate any fears or anxieties you have surrounding pregnancy and labour.
Using evidence-based knowledge and understanding to educate and inform you about the physiology of birth, your hormones and your mental state during labour, coupled with practical relaxation and breathing techniques, Hypnobirthing helps many couples enjoy birth as a positive and empowering experience.
In a group setting, the course usually comprises 4x sessions, each lasting approximately 3 hours. If I am teaching privately 1:1, there is usually slightly less time required for each session. I am also open to offering the course across a weekend, with 2x full 6 hour days (with breaks!) for those who cannot commit to a weekday/weeknight class.
The course is a total of 12 hours long, usually spread across 4x sessions, so as long as you start the course in good time to complete it before your baby arrives, then it’s the right time! Ideally, it’s good to start the course from around 20 weeks onwards, because this gives you plenty of time to practice the relaxation techniques you will learn. The more practice you put in, the easier you will find it to slip into that relaxed and meditative state.
The KGH course centres around profound logic, evidence-based knowledge and proven relaxation and reframing techniques. Altogether, these elements form a cohesive and comprehensive course which works to help you feel informed, confident, calm and in control of your birth experience.
Starting with the basics, the production of a hormone called Oxytocin in your body is the key to labour, birth and bonding with your baby. In order to produce the levels of oxytocin needed to labour and birth your baby, you need to feel incredibly safe, unobserved and undisturbed, relaxed and at ease with the process of birth. Hypnobirthing aims to show you how to create the conditions to allow these feelings. The more relaxed, unafraid and calm you feel = the more oxytocin is released = the smoother, calmer and more easeful your birth should be.
It is highly recommended that your birth partner will attend and participate in the course as well. They will form the cornerstone of your birth team and will only be able to effectively support you if they have the same knowledge and understanding as you do. It will be their job to help create and manage a calm environment for you, to advocate for you and ensure your wishes are communicated in such a way that does not pull you from your relaxed state, and to support you physically and emotionally using their knowledge about the natural process of birth and labour.
Moreover, many couples cite their hypnobirthing course as something which helps them to spend time together, really focussing on each other and their baby and helps to deepen their connection to the experience of birth. Partners say they feel more bonded to their baby and gain a truer understanding of the experience from the mothers’ perspective.
Birth partners are often, wrongly, left out of the birthing experience and find themselves feeling helpless or in the way. Hypnobirthing aims to change this by offering tangible and practical ways in which your birth partner becomes fully involved and vital to the positive outcome of the experience.
Does Hypnobirthing guarantee a pain-free birth?
Nothing can guarantee you a pain-free birth, but what hypnobirthing can guarantee is a more calm, confident and positive experience, however your birth unfolds. If you have a good understanding of how the body functions during labour, what your muscle groups need at each stage to help them work efficiently, and how to create the perfect conditions - both mentally and environmentally - to keep things moving forwards, “pain” instead becomes a natural and productive sensation that you can comfortably manage with confidence, strength and intuition.
Labour can be intense and powerful, but it doesn’t have to be painful or traumatic. When you’re holding your baby in your arms for the first time, we want you to feel as though you’ve just run a marathon: powerful, elated, euphoric, exhausted and in need of a good meal, perhaps a massage, and a very well-earned rest!
Happily, there are no risks to you or your baby when practicing hypnobirthing. It is an entirely safe and logical way to prepare for labour and can be useful for any time of stress, worry or anxiety. Indeed many people go on to continue using the techniques for all sorts of day-to-day scenarios: dentist appointments, job interviews, early parenthood etc. It has many applications.
I run warm and engaging group classes in the village of Westbourne, which is on the border between West Sussex and Hampshire. I have supported couples who have gone on to have their babies at Southampton, Winchester, Portsmouth, Chichester and Worthing Hospitals, as well as in their own homes.
There is a common misconception that Hypnobirthing is akin to stage hypnosis: someone swinging a pendulum before your eyes and sending you into a sleep, during which they can “make you” do embarrassing things. But the reality is more like you are being un-hypnotised from all the scary stories and inaccuracies that you have been conditioned to believe about birth for most of your life!
When we talk about true Hypnobirthing, what we’re actually doing is coaching you to be able to access the part of your brain that is the centre for instinctual, natural and primal urge and behaviour. To be able to tap into a relaxed, calm and almost-meditative state of mind during labour is one of the most useful tools you could have at your disposal during birth, and that is what hypnobirthing aims to teach
Caesarean birth is still very much Birth. Therefore, hypnobirthing principles and learnings still apply and can be incredibly helpful. The course is still a full, evidence-based antenatal education course which includes modules about different types of birth including caesarean birth, and how hypnobirthing can be used for each. It’s not just about learning to breathe through contractions; the techniques you will learn will help you to remain calm and make informed decisions about your care from a place of rational, logical thinking and applying evidence and research to your individual scenario. Practically speaking, lots of parents find the exercises useful whilst waiting to go to theatre, having their spinal block administered, during the birth of their baby and during their recovery.
Absolutely! There is no downside to learning more about pregnancy and birth in general, but particularly if you are deemed to be high risk, it’s vital to be as informed and confident as possible. In learning how to ground yourself mentally and emotionally, and how to make decisions based around fact and evidence, rather than fear or worry, you can turn your high risk label into one of empowerment and positivity.
I believe that the course is most engaging, effective and powerful (and fun!) when delivered in-person. Attending the course in person offers a chance for couples to bond and work together, and to really give 100% of their attention and focus to each other and the material, making for a more absorbing experience. Group courses are also a good way to meet like-minded parents-to-be in your local area who are expecting their babies in the same season. Lots of discussion points and questions can be raised in a group setting whereas they may not be as forthcoming in an online forum. As a teacher, I feel I can connect and communicate with my class more profoundly in person. For these reasons, I do not currently offer an online version of the course.
Proud to be an accredited KGHypnobirthing Practitioner
The Katherine Graves Hypnobirthing school is considered to be the original home of hypnobirthing in the UK.


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